A List of 40 Recovery Tools
1. Abstinence (partial or total): We get support and growth by abstaining from people, places or things that we consider harmful.
2. Acceptance: Accept that you are a sex and love addict.
3. Affirmations: Retraining "old thoughts" of low self-esteem.
4. Anonymity and Confidentiality: Guard other's safety by not repeating what is heard in a meeting or other confidential setting
5. Balance: Each day remember to develop personal relationships with people other than your partner. Engage in pleasure, education, rest, creativity, spiritual involvement, and play.
6. Carry Recovery with You: Keep reminders, cues, instructions, or anything else that will help in your purse or wallet.
7. Conferences, conventions, retreats, and workshops: Spend time focused on recovery.
8. Deep breathing: If you feel a panic attack coming on, try taking slow deep breaths.
9. Honesty: Work to eliminate denial, half truths, white lies, fibs, partial truths and overt dishonesty with ourselves and others.
10. Humor: "Laughter is the best medicine" is true. Never take yourself too seriously.
11. Journaling: Writing provides a way to be honest with ourselves and our Higher Power.
12. Literature: Read some recovery (AA, SLAA, or any relevant recovery books and literature) literature, everyday.
13. Live in the moment: "One Day At a Time" as we often say.
14. Meetings: Where we share our experience, strength and hope with each other to better understand our common problem and work together towards the solution.
15. Open-mindedness: Be vigilant to listen for similarities and not differences.
16. People, Places and Things: Choose to avoid all triggering situations, or make them safe if you can't avoid them.
17. Physical Activity: Spend time doing fun activities, and get involved in sports, exercise, and other physical activities.
18. Prayer and Meditation: A means of establishing a conscious contact with a Power greater than ourselves, for spiritual healing.
19. Prioritize: Make recovery your number one priority.
20. Professional Help: Your addiction may have been a subconscious way of self-medicating yourself for wounds you carry from your earlier life.
21. Recovery Partners: Being accountable to someone is an important anchor for sobriety.
22. Recovery Plan: A recovery plan is a predetermined way of expressing our sexuality consistent with our values, so that even when confused, we have a written guide to help us.
23. Relationships: Dating is a way of changing the instant gratification habit and getting to know more about ourselves and another person, before committing to any sexual decisions.
24. Reminders: Posting small signs or post-its with affirmations or healthy reminders near your computer, your bathroom mirror, your car's interior, or wherever you want to be "reminded".
25. S.A.F.E.: If it’s Secret; Abusive; Feelings; Empty, then it’s likely our addiction.
26. Service: Service is helping ourselves by helping others.
27. Sharing: Being honest and vulnerable in front of fellow recovering addicts is frightening but worth it.
28. Slogans: Simple statements that can be used in crisis situations
29. Socializing: Breaking down our isolation and getting to know people in a nonsexual context.
30. Sponsorship: Sponsorship is two people with the same problem helping each other to work the program.
31. Need a Meeting? Start a Meeting: SLAA Fellowship Wide Services provides help in creating new groups.
32. Support Network: Meeting with other people to discuss your journey helps you to know you are not alone and allows you to get another perspective on your struggles.
33. Surrender: "Surrender to Win" is a slogan.
34. Take the First Step: Repeat the words "We admitted we were powerless over our sex and love addiction — that our lives had become unmanageable," until the meaning sinks in.
35. Telephone: The telephone is your lifeline between meetings.
36. Think It Through: "Interrupt the acting out" by developing and memorizing a set of strategies to help you to avoid acting out (back to a well-written recovery plan). Postpone the slip, reminding yourself you can have it later but you'll talk to someone first.
37. Top Lines: Replace Behaviors with Healthy Ones: Break the habit pattern. We can't get sober in a vacuum.
38. Twelve Steps: Working the steps is the foundation of recovery; they are a set of spiritual practices for personal growth and recovery.
39. Willingness: Become willing. Open your mind to the possibility of giving up the slip, rather than giving in to it.
40. Withdrawal: Withdrawal — Gateway to Freedom, Hope, and Joy
A List of 40 Recovery Tools